Please do not wait until you’ve learned your favorite violin piece to celebrate that within your hands is a beautiful, powerful and precious object that was crafted lovingly at great effort.
Do not wait to recognize that your mindful focus during practice itself is a life affirming, positive statement.
Do not wait until your have achieved that elusive goal we call “mastery” to recognize that real mastery is finding joy in your work this very moment.
Many teachers and families use games and activities to spur on the music practice cycle in their kids. If this works for you, great. But take heed:
Games, stickers and similar activities only motivate the student as far as the game itself. They won’t in themselves make students care about the music or the violin. Then, when the novelty of the game wears off, what is left?
On the other hand, when a kid really cares about music and the violin, meaningful progress will occur, even with a beat up instrument and uneven family support.
For older students and adults, it’s much the same. Your deep passion for the work will carry you through the inevitable bumps and dips.
FOR PARENTS: CREATING KIDS WHO CARE ABOUT MUSIC
Inspire, don’t entertain. It’s not your job to amuse those kids with an endless parade of practice bribes. So prepare to go deeper into the music as a family. Here are some suggestions:
- Attend lessons and take notes (instead of your iPad). Be involved with the daily practice routine
- Explore music every day.
- Listen actively as a family and talk about what you’re hearing.
- Attend live concerts performed by great musicians across many genres.
- Quit talking (or even thinking) about “talent” and/or comparing your children to their peers.
Too busy or not interested in doing the above? Then you’ll get poor results at best. Be prepared for “I’m bored,” or “I don’t like violin lessons.” Novelty wears off quickly.
Seriously. If you don’t care, why should your kids?
My bottom line, speaking as a teacher to a student or to a family: “If you don’t care; I can’t help you.”
Instead of “practicing the violin music you love” perhaps a more useful idea for students of music, beginner or expert, might be “love the music you practice.”
If you can become passionate about etudes, scales, or music chosen for you by others (orchestra, or teacher for example) it’s far more likely that whatever and wherever you play, you will move your journey forward.
Don’t resist, instead embrace those days. They’re not a bad thing. Actually they are a good thing.
Now you can erase all your assumptions and once again approach your instrument with a sense of excitement, discovery and curiosity.
Isn’t this the place where your best work happens?